In this episode of the Get Loved Up Podcast, Koya Webb welcomes Mel Robbins, international best-selling author of The 5 Second Rule, 4 number 1 best-selling audiobooks, the number 1 podcast on Audible, and the author of The High 5 Habit, a revolutionary simple way of affirming yourself for who you are. Her groundbreaking work on behavioral change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals and the world's biggest brands to inspire people to become more confident, effective, and fulfilled. Today, Mel shares exactly how to use the 5 Second Rule to disrupt intrusive thoughts. As wrestling with the voice that tells you you’re not worthy is a daily endeavor, she shares her own experiences in keeping on track with her journey even as scarcity begane to creep up again. Mel also explains how she came up with the High 5 Habit. It’s a deceptively simple way to affirm the person in the mirror and provide you with a scientifically-proven, biologically-needed dopamine drip. These techniques are being practiced by hundreds of thousands of people around the world and you are invited to join the revolution in empowering yourself to be your authentic self.
Highlights
05:05 Wrestling with your triggers is a daily endeavor
08:01 The 5 Second Rule to count backwards and interrupt negative thoughts
10:01 Breaking and replacing limiting beliefs starts with awareness of those beliefs
15:12 The High 5 Habit breaks self-rejection, self-hatred and self-doubt
21:39 People pleasing is a result of you not liking yourself
27:06 Giving that High 5 brings people back into alignment with their spirit
33:11 Comparison/jealousy/envy is desire blocked by insecurity
39:41 Liberating affirmations prepare you for your time to shine
45:53 Mel's professional journey: A lesson in preparation and perseverance
52:06 Life as a mother: Deep care for feelings and empowering children
56:18 Overcoming depression by changing the way you treat yourself
1:05:23 Join the High 5 Challenge for free and experience hope
Quotes
06:36 "You will always and forever have to catch yourself when your mind drifts to the negative. And the reason why that is true is because in your day-to-day life, there will always be things that trigger old patterns, always."
08:36 "The counting backwards makes this part of your brain focus on the counting and the second that you get to one, you have a moment of control and that's where you can insert a different thought."
16:21 "That habit of self rejection is what drives your need for validation externally. That habit of self rejection is why you think you're only worthy if somebody else says that you're worthy."
29:42 "Meditation teaches you self awareness and it teaches you how to not react to thoughts. It doesn't change the default opinion that you have about yourself... And what I love about the high five habit and why this simple ritual is so divine and spiritual is because it is about reconnection with self."
34:17 "Instead of everybody becoming somebody who's ahead of you in some race, what if the people that you were drawn toward that either it feels a little like jealousy or invalidation or comparison, what if you could flip it into curiosity and let it go, what is it about what they're doing that actually feels like it's calling me?"
34:53 "Curiosity opens the door for your desire to flow through. Insecurity locks your desire in a cage and it eats you alive."
1:10:10 "If you can use these tools to push through fear, and if you can use these tools to repair your relationship with yourself and to start believing in yourself again, you will be startled by the magic that happens in your life."
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